Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Being Sensible

One of the easiest things to do in life is to “be angry”. Somehow, for some people, being angry seems to be  far much easier than being happy.

There’s nothing wrong with being angry. In fact, there are times when we should be angry; when people lie to us, when someone abuses our rights, when someone forces us to do something that is against our belief, when people disrespect us, and so forth. But being angry is right when released in the right way too. Just like how there’s the right way to talk to people, there is also the right way to express our anger; with grace.

Last week I experienced a very very upsetting situation. My company was supposed to open a booth in one of the biggest music festival, but simply said, we got screwed up. Isn’t it “amazing” that after weeks of planning and completing 100% of the payment, they “forgot” about us and on the D-day, none of us could even get in. They never gave us ID passes, and no one seemed to be responsible for it. And this is after being in contact with the officials for weeks and also paying 100% upfront. It took a loooooong time before all of us could get in and prove to them that we deserve the booth we have paid for. Yada yada, I managed to meet the management, and everything was finally settled after a few hours. In total, we lost about 4 hours from our supposedly 8 operating-hours. That’s a tremendous loss if we were to calculate the cost per hour.

During the argument I had with the management, I really felt like releasing my disappointment and anger on Twitter. For a second, I thought that I would feel better if the world knows how I felt, or how bad their service were. But I didn’t. I expressed my anger in just the right portion, just to the one who was to blame. And after I finished talking (or being angry – to be exact), I inquired why this all could happen. After listening to their side of the story, I understood. What they had to deal with was even far worse. Basically their system crashed just a few days before the event. So it was that bad for them too. Eventhough they were still “wrong” for not giving us a smooth service and creating us tremendous loss, things were understandable. And I felt relieved that I didn’t publicly announce their mistake to the world.

You see..when you’re really angry at someone, try to keep it between just the two of you. You don’t have to take people down in front of everyone just because they made you crazily angry for that very minute. And you don’t have to embarass them like that. People make mistakes, and there are reasons for them. So listen to them first, then judge and evaluate. The moment you take it public, you are putting someone’s life at risk. Because you never know how one impulsive tweet or announcement can change a person’s life. Have the sense to put ourselves in other people’s shoes. Life’s not always about me, me and me.

25 comments:

Iklan Baris said...

Nice article :-)

Anindita Pusparani said...

So sorry to know this matter. This would be good lesson for us. And as usual, I love ur statement, "Life’s not always about me, me and me. " :) damn its true :p Oh yeaa, I really want to learn about enterpreneurship. From u maybe. :D

kelimutu said...

I always love your every single article and every single quote you write here in your blog..
Thanks for sharing this Kak Di,, you remind me that Life's not always about me, me, and me..

xoxo
kelimutu

Nonni Shetya said...

wooow..amazing writen ever ka.. now i trying to be calm down if someone do some mistakes to me.

Aundrea said...

I especially love this post. Well-written n deep! :D

dream capsul luluby said...

touche for a smart girl never tweet angry :)

misstyzha said...

ahh..your best post so far in 2012 kak Di!!!

kriww said...

diana, you really are a remarkable person... :)

Anonymous said...

indeed..

Many people put "angry" status on their profile bbm n that's really bugging. they mad to certain people but they make all people questioning

Anonymous said...

HI Di,
totally agree with u.
but what writen on ur blog (i quote here)

"You see..when you’re really angry at someone, try to keep it between just the two of you. You don’t have to take people down in front of everyone just because they made you crazily angry for that very minute. And you don’t have to embarass them like that. People make mistakes, and there are reasons for them. So listen to them first, then judge and evaluate. The moment you take it public, you are putting someone’s life at risk. Because you never know how one impulsive tweet or announcement can change a person’s life. Have the sense to put ourselves in other people’s shoes. Life’s not always about me, me and me."

by posting it on your blog, isn't it the same that you are announcing their fault for the whole word to read?

sarah halimi said...

Thank you Diana for writing this post, It made me to think twice. Super love thisssssss post! :)

sarah halimi said...

Thank you Diana for writing this post, It made me to think twice. Super love thisssssss post! :)

Diana Rikasari said...

Anonymous: Hi! I told my story as an example, and I didn't mention any name / person / organization / company in specific. Thanks! :)

Erlinda "Miss Little Town" said...

This is awesome! thanks. ^_^

Mommy Ryva said...

You know..."Time up" isn't just for Toddler, I practice "Time up" for myself either. Always worked to cool-down a bit. Or, I text my husband with subject :"Beib, just read don't comment until I ask....bla bla bla"
That's what a Husband are for...hehehehe ;p

Mommy Ryva said...

You know, the method "Time out" isn't just for toddler, I practice it to myself too. Or, I'll text my husband with subject: "Beib, don't make any comment until I ask, I'm about to burst out!blablabla..."

Both methods always work, besides that's what husband are for ;p

Fetty Asihta Kencana Putri said...

Thank you for this positive insight kak Di! :)
from now on I'll be more careful, manage my anger, both in real life and virtual.

xoxo

novi said...

thank you for writing this :)

The Shanen said...

A very well done post here, kak D. I often face situations where I just can't help but explode in anger... I used to throw everything on twitter, but now that I think about it and re-read my tweets, it's not only embarrassing that person, but also myself in a way that's as if telling people how "immature" & how I could have been wiser in dealing with things... now I always remind myself to always have a balanced view from both sides & control my emotions. :-) Hope you have a great trip in Hong Kong!

Ayu Damayanthi said...

always inspiring kak Di.

Mitha Komala said...

your saying always amazes me kak dii! true that we should not judge at the very first place because there must be a reason behind everything (:

http://mithakomala.blogspot.com/

sheca said...

Love your last paragraphy, I'll share it on my blog :)

Zee said...

totally agree, di.. :)
I quoted your last paragraph to http://zee9.tumblr.com/post/19228108063/when-youre-really-angry

inform me if you mind, and i will remove it. thank youu.. :)

alma-chan ♥ said...

yeay! that's why i'm sooo in love with your blog, enough said.
:)

Ayu Pravita Sari said...

Dear Mba Diana,

kind like sooo late i've just read ur blog nowdays.. but really, i love this post so much. may i share it to my own blog? i hope you don't mind :)

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